Tag: recovery
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The Boiling Point
Why do we use? For me, there were stages of why. And then there’s staying sober and learning to live without checking out. It’s not easy, and I understand why it’s so hard for addicts to stay sober. In sobriety we reach a boiling point where we either drink or trudge on. We don’t have…
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Money and Addiction
Do people with money have it easier? Should they be able to just put down the drink (or drug)? Does having it all un-even the playing field when it comes to addiction and mental health? I vote no. And that seems like an unpopular opinion. And for the record, I was dead broke when I…
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Selfish and Self-Centered
So I’ve heard once or twice that I’m selfish and self-centered in the extreme. And this was a big shame trigger for me at the beginning. I already felt terrible about myself. Hearing this made me think about myself even more. But I’ve learned over the years that this doesn’t need to be interpreted as…
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Self-Forgiveness
This topic is huge for me. As I go along in sobriety and get older, the more work I realize I need to do in forgiving myself for the past and the mistakes I’ve made in sobriety. When I make a mistake, or I really mess something up, I am hit with an epic level…
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Live and Let Live
On of the greatest gifts of sobriety is the ability to let others be who they are. And not just from a ‘keeping my mouth shut’ perspective, but from an emotional perspective. That means I don’t get (as) worked up emotionally when someone isn’t acting or behaving the way I think they should. Prior to…
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Loving our past self
A few times lately I’ve heard sober folks talk about their pasts as if they are the worst person on earth. I can’t tell if it’s true self-loathing or thinking it’s what we are supposed to do. In each case, the woman went on and on about how selfish and horrible she was while drinking,…
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Sobriety Tips
From someone who’s been through it. There’s no one way to do sobriety. As long and you don’t drink or use you’re doing something right. I know it’s not easy. And I know it’s overwhelming and confusing at times. I put together things I wish someone would have told me along the way. I hope…
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What does it mean to be spiritual?
I am one of those that confused religion and spirituality. And once I learned the difference, I still thought there was a religious component to spirituality. Religion is a set of rules that a group is to follow or receive consequences. Similar to the law, it’s one sided and doesn’t leave much room for interpretation.…
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The Higher Power
Nothing and I mean nothing bothered me more about recovery than the higher power. Just prior to getting sober, my concept of a higher power consisted of fear, contempt and a belief that I had to think and be a certain way to avoid the fires of hell. I was raised in a half agnostic…
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Meditation
Love it or fear it, meditation is one of the most important things and addict can do to get better. I’ve learned so much about meditation over the past decade that I could write a book in it. But for this post I’m going to focus on the why and how. So why is meditation…
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